Pretend you're sick or visiting family. Most of the callings are given out those first couple of weeks. And BYU is not as stereotypical super-duper-Mormon as many think. There are definite subcultures there that are easy to find. You'll easily see who are the ultra TBM students and who are the lesser active ones. It was kind of silly but having DVDs of r rated movies was a big indicator of who was who. And that's who you'll naturally start to room with.
So there will be apartments where all the roommates are full on TBMs and others where it's pretty obvious they're just attending church until they graduate. By my senior year my roommates barely attended church, and one came home every Friday and Saturday night remaking of marijuana. After, at least you're first year there, you'll be able to find a group who share your passion, or lack of passion, in the church. As for dating, I'm sure there's underground gay and lesbian groups there.
I'm sure you'll be able to find them.
As for guys trying to date you, you don't really have to worry about that unless you're really outgoing and bubbly, and preferably blonde and thin. If your more quiet or intellectual, guys will usually leave you alone. Most BYU guys are intimidated by really smart women.
They want a housewife. Just remember, Mormons care about outside appearance the most. So if you put on a facade of activity in the church that should be enough for them not to arouse suspicion about you. When I was there I did the bare minimum of church activity that I needed to and spent most of my time studying. Bender, I agree with you My Mom went to BYU in 'ish for about one semester or quarter , whatever it was back then. Why risk it? If you get caught, you will not get your degree.
The stress would be horrible just to save a few dollars. Go to a scho were you will enjoy it. I agree. Going to BYU is a mistake. The reason I replied directly underneath the post that I did is because of all of the stories of students who either lost their ecclesiastical endorsement or were caught in an honor code violation and then were kicked out.
Some of them have had trouble with BYU either not allowing their credit to transfer, or not issuing their diploma even if they had already completed requirements for graduation. I'd hate to see them pull a Chad Hardy on her. I agree with othersteve. Tattle tail", watching your every move so they can run to the Bishop or Stake Pres. The commandment " Thou shalt not gossip" doesn't apply to good stodgy Mormons who'd love nothing more than to tattle on you if, God Forbid , they see you loving another woman. Cynicism added on purpose Okay I'm just rattling on. I am sure it is possible you will find a satisfactory dating situation at BYU, but I would think the odds are strongly against it.
BYU has about 12, female students. If we figure 2. Those percentages are just guesses. Most of those would be expected to be closeted to some level. Let's guess 75 percent are deep in the closet. Of course if you, or they, have an extra keen sense of gaydar, maybe you can find them or be found. Most likely though, you are stuck on a campus of 26, students with no more than or so potential dating partners. If you are like what I consider to be an average person, you will eliminate about 80 percent of those right off the bad for appearance, personality, etc.
A like percentage will eliminate you right off the bat. So, lets say you will consider 20 percent of the candidates, or about 30 people. And 20 percent of them, or about six, will consider you.
The odds of you finding one of those six on BYU's campus is pretty remote. If you want a satisfactory dating situation, go elsewhere. Get out now! If you got into BYU surely you can get in somewhere else that is equally affordable. What you don't realize now is that BYU will follow you around on your resume for the rest of your life.
It's only an assets in certain circles, the ones you are trying to escape and can be a liability in others. Do yourself a favor and find a real school where you can live your life in the open! So advising her not to go is a little unhelpful in that context.
If you can get admitted to BYU-Provo, you likely have a range of options. Cahomegrown Date: Ok, so I'll go a little farther in the unhelpful category: Don't do that to your parents Edited 1 time s. I have gay friends that attend BYU It can be hard because the campus encourages students to snitch on each other. So if other students pick up on the fact that you are dating in a non approved way it can reach back to the honor code office.
But the only affordable school that accepted me was BYU. And there's the honor code that doesn't allow for LGBT dating. But does it happen. USGA is an open forum for BYU students, faculty, and guests to or go on a friend date, but that two LGBT students who are the same gender.
One guy I know who is gay went to BYU. He dated but managed to keep his relationship secret from his room mates. However after the relationship ended his ex boyfriend turned him in out of spite.
Neither did volunteering at the temple, nor reading the Bible, nor trying to date women in his ward nor going to BYU. As an active member, he struggled with having to choose between the gospel he loves and being with someone he loves.
BYU and the church as a whole, he said, need to readjust language and teachings to be more inclusive and understanding of the challenges its members may face. Some days, he feels like sitting in a pew. Tell me all about it.
Just think of what he did, his mission and his life. He was always trying to help people. Legal Notices Obituaries Jobs. Sunday, February 17, Sign In. Sign Out. LGBT students host panel focused on faith and gender identity at Mormon church-owned university. By Courtney Tanner. March 15, Updated: March 19, I have a friend that told me that he had a straight friend and he was attracted to him. There was never anything inappropriate. Except that he was painfully attracted - in spite of the fact that nothing ever would have happened. He became obsessed and it was painful to him.